when it comes to loved ones and death? I get the whole, “we don’t want mom/dad etc to die” I recently lost my father in law to cancer, among some other things.
As a cancer survivor, I feel I have a right to speak to this. I was diagnosed with testicular cancer in 2002. Fortunately it was not very serious, at least as far as cancer goes. After fighting with my insurance company twice(once to get the dr approved and once to get the surgery approved) I was “cured” After 18 sessions of radiation therpay. They were awful and I can’t possibly describe what it feels like. They lay you mostly naked on a table, in a huge room, line you up and tell you to lay still. Then they leave you alone in this cavernous place, your only companions the thrumming of the machine and your heart beating in your ears. After a series of clicks and other ominous noises you get zapped with low levels of radiation. One of the many wonderful things about that is it kills the bad cells. Of course the downside to that is the indiscriminate way in which it does it’s insidious job. There is collateral damge, good cells get zapped along with the bad. I can’t prove it, but I think my stomach is still screwed up from it. As I understand it, chemo works in the same indiscriminate manner. But, as Ive never experienced it, I don’t know first hand and cannot speak to it. What I am sure of, from what I’ve seen anyway, is it is a nasty horrible experience.
Is it worth it, to live? I don’t know. After my first 3 sessions and subsequent vomiting, I wasn’t sure it was. I realize I got off relatively easy. As for the people that go through months of having posions injected into them. You did know chemo meds were posionous, didn’t you? They kill off all manner of things inside you some good and some bad. You ache, get sick and generally prefer death over this. So, when I see people, that have never had this shit, talk about how, it’s unfortunate to have people pass before there time, it pisses me off royally.
Hey jackass, live through it, then talk about how the person should endure this hell for you, so you can feel better about yourself. Aren’t you being, I don’t know, the teeniest bit selfish? I get that you love them and want them around. But at what cost to them? This article opens up a potential Pandora’s box of legal and ethical problems read this .
Of course every treatment is different for every patient. But before you tell a loved one “Please don’t die, stick around for us”, try and imagine the living hell they are in first.